Do you notice the difference?

Do you ever stop to notice the difference between your story and reality?

What do I mean by this?  I mean do you really stop and take the time to look at what is happening right in front of you? Instead of just guessing...

Ok let's say you are telling me that "so and so" happened. But look closely. Did this really happen? Are you sure? Was this what was really going on? Let's say you went somewhere and met someone and this someone did something and said something. And you think that this means whatever you are now saying it means... but can you really know that this is true? Or are you just assuming that you know what this person meant? Did you get inside the other person's head? Did you ask the other person most specifically what he or she meant or are you just assuming? Just guessing?

I have discovered that this is a really important distinction. We assume so much. We make so many guesses. And it gives us so much anguish. How much anguish are you giving yourself by assuming all sorts of things about people and events? Do you really know what's going on? Can you really ever get inside someone else's head and know FOR SURE what he or she is thinking?? Do you really know what the other person means or are you just guessing? It's worth thinking about.

What would your life be like if you didn't assume so much? Did you ever think about that? How would it be if you just went into situations clear and free and really really looked at what's going on in front of you instead of getting lost in your assumptions  and your stories about people and situations...  I guess this is what being in the present moment is really all about - dropping our stories and assumptions and noticing reality - noticing what is right in front of our eyes. It can be quite a trip - if we just notice.