The secret of non-resistance

So you’re involved in a process of rapid growth, looking inward, doing a lot of self-reflection, meditating, going to therapy, reading a lot of books, understanding and processing a lot of new stuff – so why do you feel so shitty? Why do you feel so shitty with all this growth going on? You’re gaining insight right? You’re becoming wiser right? So what’s up?

 

Well here’s what I think. In my experience, as we evolve, all our old stuff comes to the surface to be released – and this can be very challenging. Especially if we don’t understand what’s happening to us. If we don’t understand that this is a part of our process, we get scared, we think there’s something wrong with us, and we try to suppress what is coming to the surface to be released. And this resistance – our resistance – makes everything worse!

 

Then when the pain (anxiety, depression, fear, worry) get too bad – we seek refuge in our old patterns – we eat or we drink or we watch TV or we work and work and work or we let our love addiction or whatever addiction take over… anything to escape the pain….

 

But friends, as you’ve probably discovered – nothing works! Not really. Once you’re on this growth path, once you start becoming more conscious, the old stuff will come up to be released. That’s the way it works – because you can’t go higher in consciousness and keep the old stuff with you. It’s impossible. If you want to evolve, if you want to awake up – you have to look at the old stuff and let it go…

 

So what’s the best way of dealing with this process?

 

NON-RESISTANCE… if you can just let it happen, if you can say to yourself – ok – well this is what is happening…. This is what I am feeling… this is what is… this is what I need to look at… if you can lovingly take yourself by the hand and give yourself a big big hug and well just let everything be… you will see that the peace that passeth all human understanding descends on you… and you will get to taste (maybe just for a moment) the non-dualistic state. You will get to feel (maybe just for a moment) what it’s like when you finally emerge from the battleground that is the world of dualistic thinking…

 

I wish you the peace that passeth all human understanding on this sunny summer day!

Comments

[Petra]

so so true....i know what i m talking of, cause i m still in the process, but i feel better since i stopped resistance....at first i only told me to feel good and after a while it went better and better...but even better than not to resist is to accept the things how they are, to embrace and to grace them, and that seems to be difficult, cause if we feel shitty, its not easy to accept feeling lonely, useless, not wanted, but actually it is just a little step to change your mind..and it doesnt happen from one minute to the next, but imperceptible and when yo are throught it, you will look back , no longer able to understand, why you felt so bad.....

[Poul-Erik]

"The peace that passeth all human understanding descends on you…"

The word “passeth”, maybe it’s because I am a Dane, or maybe it is not :-), but I cannot find the prober meaning to the word in this context, could you please provide me with a clearer view?

"and you will get to taste (maybe just for a moment) the non-dualistic state!"

I have stumbled across the phenomena dualistic state and non-dualistic state a lot of times now in my readings!
I am not sure if my understanding of the phenomena is in place with the rest of the world! :-)

The thoughts “there is always black and white, and white must win” – “there is something that is wrong and right, and the right must win!” is this dualistic thinking? The thoughts “something works for me and something does not!” is this non-dualistic thinking? If not, could you please provide me with a clearer understanding of the concepts?

Best regards, your friend and a guy with the same path of destiny!