A woman I know who is in her 30s said to me after she broke up with her boyfriend, "Now I can relax and be myself!" And another woman I know in her 30s told me this story. She was really attracted to this guy she was working together with and thought a lot about him and flirted with him. And then one day she found out that he was gay. Then she paused for a minute and said, "For the first time, I could relax when I was around him!"
Just think what this says about our relationships with men? That we can't really relax and be ourselves when we are with the men we are really attracted to? It's a pretty shocking thought when you think about it... isn't it? And I have to admit I can definitely find this in myself. The part of me that feels I have to pretend because I feel there's a certain way you have to be and act to keep your man happy. But I didn't think liberated Danish women in their 30s were thinking like that!
I mean these men are supposed to be the people we love, the people we are spending our time with. And if we can't really be ourselves when we're with them... well it sure says a lot about our relationships and the insane expectations we have to each other.
What would happen if you really were just yourself in your relationship? What would happen if you really said what you think and feel and acted like you really feel? Would your relationship fail? Would the guy leave you? And if he did, is he someone you really want to be with?
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